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The following self esteem lesson plans and exercises will help you focus on what works in your life to create self esteem.
As with all the Life Mastery Skills Exercises, it is highly recommended that you read (or listen to) the introduction first before starting the exercises.
Introduction to Self Esteem Skills Exercises
Self Esteem Lesson Plans
The evaluator, inner judge, points out all our faults (e.g., I am not kind enough, I am too angry, I party too much) which our inner child interprets as reasons why we should feel unworthy and bad about who we are and what we are doing. This causes us to have low self esteem. This process is the same for you, regardless of what it is you feel unworthy to attain (e.g., love, approval, wealth, health, relationship, job). The dance of life is between learning how to release our self-judgments and our reactions to these judgments, and learning how to identify and embrace our true nature. When we are ready to accept that we are the embodiment of love, joy, happiness, and peace, we receive it. We are the only ones standing in the way of our success. To learn to get out of our way takes practice, patience, and perseverance.
The mind is the cause of our pleasure and pain. To the degree we control our minds, we control our lives. Our minds create our reality in one way by projecting onto people and situations aspects of our own personalities that the evaluator, the inner judge, has condemned as bad. Our inner child is, therefore, afraid to admit it has these negative aspects, for fear our self esteem will be lowered. Instead, we project these condemned aspects onto others and then react negatively to these traits in them. For example, if I project that you are selfish, I will judge you as bad, and before long, you will treat me badly. In this way, our thoughts support and perpetuate our reality. In this example, I don't want to admit my own selfishness, because I fear my evaluator's condemnation will lower my self esteem. Instead I will see selfishness in another and act out the evaluating judge's role on them, they will feel judged, and will react by treating me badly, thus I become their victim. I also feel "right" because they are the bad one not me.
Self Esteem Lesson Plans
The following exercises will help low self esteem by clearing your mind so you can understand the reality you are creating by your thoughts. They will assist you in experiencing that you are not your thoughts, but rather the one who is thinking them. They will help you focus on what works in your life to create high self esteem.
We recommend you start with the free self esteem exercise first. A Self Esteem Skills Module is also provided containing ten self esteem lesson plans for those who wish to delve deeper into developing their self esteem skills. This module also contains a complete Glossary of Terms and can be purchased at the Life Mastery Skills Bookstore for $5.00.
For those of you who wish to purchase all six modules (Communication, Relationships, Abundance, Self Esteem, Empowerment and Self Awareness) the "Life Mastery Skills" book is also available and can be purchased for $19.00 at the Bookstore (a savings of $11.00). The "Life Mastery Skills" book contains exercises for developing the most essential aspects of emotional intelligence and was created specifically to help each of us break free from our past and live a life of fulfillment, filled with love, power and success.
The instructions and links for the free exercise and for purchasing the Self Esteem module and the "Life Mastery Skills" book are also provided at the top right side of this page.
Life Mastery Skills Exercises
Self Esteem Exercise
Self Esteem Module
Life Mastery Skills Book
These exercises are viewed with Adobe Reader. If you do not have Adobe Reader you can download it here.
Alice S. Hardesty, Ph.D.
Some of the exercises require writing, keeping a diary or drawing. For your convenience we are providing free downloadable journal paper.
Download Journal Paper - Unlined (for drawing and free-form notes)
DISCLAIMER: Should you have any reason to believe that you are not in a mental or emotional condition to begin the exercises provided on this website, you should seek the advice of a mental health professional to assist you in this decision. Additionally, should you choose to begin any of the exercises provided on this website, you may find that some of the exercises may cause unpleasant or uncomfortable feelings. If you feel confused or overwhelmed by your reactions to this material, it is recommended that you find a mental health professional to assist you in your journey towards self awareness.